My Grandfather, 12 Years in Judgement

Charlton Rhinehart

The first close person in my life that I lost was my grandfather, I lost him 12 years ago. Sometimes I think about the things we did together, sometimes I think about the things he said, and sometimes I think about where he is now; and when I do so I must make a difficult choice.

 
Grandpa was a good and blessed person. He lived his life faithful to his wife and with a great concern and love for his family. I was blessed to spend many days with Grandma and Grandpa while my parents were at work. Grandpa had grown up during the depression in a very large family, they often had to go without, because of this he lived very frugally and responsible. He told a story of a coin he dropped on the way to buy a pair of shoes as a boy, he never found the coin and had to go the whole year without shoes because of it. Perhaps because of hard times like that my Grandma and Grandpa would spend all week cutting out coupons and preparing for grocery day, they would visit several grocery stores on the shopping day to get all the best deals. They made the most of their money in many ways living well under their means like many grandparents, yet they were not frugal at all when it came to spending on us grandchildren.

 
Grandma never drove a car her whole life, Grandpa always drove her around although she was very smart and capable, in several similar aspects he catered to her in an old fashioned way. The two of them kept their house prestige, Grandma would keep the indoors spotless and Grandpa worked daily maintaining their small lawn. I would work with him and I enjoyed it, we would mow every chance we got, bag every blade of grass, check the gutters, trim the hedges, and check the oil in the car and mower every week. Hardly ever did they need any oil but we still checked. Grandma and Grandpa always cooked at home, eating at a restaurant was no option. Grandpa always led a prayer before the meal, it was always the same recited prayer, but we never skipped giving thanks to God. Likewise Grandma and Grandpa never traveled anywhere for fun, the cost of travel was an unnecessary expense, but my Grandmother later told me she really regretted not taking vacations.

 
Grandpa was sharp although he never got to attend college, he helped several families with their taxes who couldn’t figure them out on their own. He read the paper cover to cover every day, he would watch the news knowing each each interval the new stories would be on. I never saw grandpa study his bible but I assumed he did so at some point from time to time. Grandpa always kept a close watch on the weather station also, if I could only count the times I listened to the music that played on The Weather Channel as the local forecast was displayed, I think of those days every time I’ve heard it since. We would show up way early for doctor appointments, and the doctor offices always made us wait way late before they would take one of us back to meet the doctor. In a sense this only contributed all the more to my procrastination habit as I saw how pointless being so punctual was. In many ways Grandpa bored me to death, I saw many grandfathers going fishing or woodworking, but Grandpa didn’t have any hobbies. Looking back however I realize he was a good grandfather, how much he cared for me and the responsibility he showed me.

 
Grandpa fought in World War II, he had traveled to Germany and fought in the Battle of the Bulge. He had several good stories, but I was never brave enough to really ask him about any of the war action he had seen, I wish I had. The only gun he owned was a Luger he had brought back from Germany that he showed me a couple times. Grandpa was not an career soldier, he had volunteered when the war had grown to a size that a draft was about to begin. Grandpa had worked otherwise for the local chemical plant in the storeroom, a good fit as he was very organized and responsible. Despite his travels and service in life, hardly ever would a curse word slip from his lips, not like many of the other veterans I met.

 
Grandpa had grown up in a denomination, his father was the preacher for that church. His 11 brothers of his humongous family were quite wild like many preacher children are, but grandpa had a very different character of kindness. Grandma and him attended church in that same denomination every Sunday, even when they were very old and Grandma couldn’t hear a thing said there, they were still there each Lord’s day. Because of the denomination, Grandpa was never immersed or baptized for the forgiveness of his sins (Acts 2:38, 22:16). He was never even immersed for that matter, as he was only sprinkled as an infant which was the denomination’s practice for baptism. On top of this, the church embraced much error in structure, worship and practice. Year after year the church would adopt new errors changing with the times, yet Grandpa stayed with them. It didn’t help that his father was a preacher in that denomination, though his father’s gospel might have been much closer to the truth than what that church evolved into, it still gave my grandfather roots in a church not found in the scriptures (Gal 1:8), one that he never let go of.

 
Sometimes I think about the things my grandfather and I did together – sometimes I think about the things he said – sometimes I think about where he is now and what he is doing – and it hurts.

 
Grandpa was a good man, looking him in the eyes anyone could see kindness. There was nothing evil inside of him, there was no one he desired to hurt or who he despised. Many of his brothers had chosen a sinful life, several of them had become alcoholics, but I never saw grandpa touch a drop of alcohol or even joke about such things. I could go on with examples, but my grandpa was a good man, he loved me, and I loved him. By the world’s definition Grandpa was a good Christian man. There is a truth however that I have to face: that by the Bible’s definition Grandpa was not in Christ. His life showed many challenging characteristics of a person in Christ, but some of the most basic things that place us in Christ and in His saving church were not there (Gal 3:27; Eph 5:23). Perhaps I could tell myself it is not up to me to judge, but it’s my grandpa, day after day I think of him. There is a empty hole left in my life where Grandpa was and I cannot help but think about the life he has now. I think of him, and what it must be like, and I count the years it’s been.

 
We live in a world of lies, according to our friends and according to the religious leaders, almost everyone is going to heaven. We lie to ourselves about who God is, we lie to ourselves about where our loved ones are and we lie to ourselves about where we are going. Satan is the father of lies (John 8:44) and truly is the prince of this world (John 14:30). There is however in this world of lies a reality revealed by the word that true Christians must face – it is difficult, it hurts, but through that narrow and difficult path of reality is life. The truth hurts us, it breaks our hearts and sometimes it steals away our loved ones from where we want to believe they are. It is also however this same painful truth that teaches us what is right and shows us the only way to have life unending.

 
Perhaps one of Satan’s greatest lures is that of our family. The love we have for those we have spent countless days with and have built our lives around, how easy it is to sell us into a deception about their soul’s state. When we buy into the lie about where our loved ones are, we buy into a lie that takes our soul also. The religious life our loved one lived suddenly replaces the right and wrong of God’s word that we knew. Sometimes it is tough to be truthful, truly ignorance is bliss. I will always cherish the memories of my precious grandfather, but as much as it hurts I have to live in truth and accept what it teaches me. Let us determine then to have the goal, not to set out to judge every soul that has ever lived, but to judge ourselves with righteous judgement (John 7:24), to live in truth and in God’s standard rather than our own.

The Importance of Today

Charlton Rhinehart

Often times we as humans tend to focus on tomorrow, and when we speak of tomorrow, we often mean months or even years from now. What are we planning to do? What vacation are we going to take this year, what sports should the kids play this year, or how about next year? Thinking this way is the responsible thing to do, we plan ahead and are prepared for tomorrow. After all is it not the irresponsible individuals who live for the moment and often latter pay the price? It is good for us to plan in such a way but also does that mean we sometimes forget the here and now, important things of today like enjoying the moment or being engaged with our family today?

 
When it comes to the work we plan do for God as Christians, often times we take the same course. What will I do next year for God as I plan for a new year’s resolution? Who do I hope to talk to about how to be saved when the perfect moment arises? What great mission trip do I hope to take before I die? We have our plans, we have our hearts in the right place seeking after God’s work, but far too often our good plans are all we ever achieve. Perhaps we need to realize the importance of today.

 
First of all don’t get me wrong, there is value in planning. Proverbs praises those who plan for the coming seasons (Prov. 6:6-11), Jesus likewise tells us that just like a man building a tower we must plan and count the cost of being a Christian (Luke 14). Churches and their elders, deacons and members all need to plan for their works, but when hopes and future plans are all we have we forsake our greatest opportunity – today.

 
Today is the day to Obey! “See, I am setting before you today a blessing and a curse: the blessing, if you listen to the commandments of the Lord your God, which I am commanding you today; and the curse, if you do not listen to the commandments of the Lord… (Duet 11:26-28 NASB). We need to realize that today is our only chance to obey. As preachers often say, “we are not promised tomorrow”, this couldn’t be any more basic but also it couldn’t be any more truthful. Today is our chance to obey God, to put aside our disobedience and traditions, to be immersed in Him for forgiveness, becoming a Christian.

 
Today is the day to Repent! Repentance is part of obeying Christ, one of our initial steps to Christianity. But for far too many there is a need to come back to the salvation they were once in (II Pet 2:20). Once we face death and join the billions who are already there, there will be no opportunity to repent. There is no biblical purgatory as some teach nor is there is a second chance to repent after a millennial reign as premillennials teach. Once the Bridegroom comes the door will be shut, those unprepared will left outside forever (Matt 25:10). There is only here and now before we face death that we have to repent. God longs to embrace us like the prodigal son once we turn around (Luke 15:20), but if physical death comes first eternal death is all He can give us. Don’t put off what needs to be done today.

 
Today is the day to Serve! Jesus told the parable of a rich man who had a profitable year, the man said to himself he would build bigger barns, store his goods and live well for many years. Little did the rich man know but that very night his life was taken from him (Luke 12:16-21). Such it is with or lives also, how many of us plan to work hard, perhaps we hope to retire early and take a big mission trip at that time. According to this parable that is a foolish plan if we are putting off our service for God now gambling to do a better job tomorrow. Likewise we do the same thing with our money. We give very little today, we plan and work hard to climb the corporate ladder in our career telling ourselves we will give so abundantly latter – don’t we see we are never satisfied with what we have no matter how prosperous we are? Now is the time to give! Probably the greatest thing we put off for tomorrow is what we prefer most not to do – evangelism. It is awkward speaking up for Christ, it is challenging to start the right conversations and consuming to be prepared with the scriptures we need to know to do so. We tell ourselves we are waiting for the perfect moment, maybe when we are alone with an individual for a long period, maybe when the subject of salvation or the church comes up. We wait and wait for this perfect moment, we have our honest high hopes, but in the mean time these very individuals come and go from our opportunities. Situations change fast, our coworkers or our classmates change so quickly and before we know it our opportunities and hopes have been missed. Do these individuals a favor, look at them with love and compassion, realize how brief our moments are together and ask yourself what can you show or tell them today?

 
Jesus told us when He was speaking of the concerns of this world to seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, “Therefore do not be anxious for tomorrow; for tomorrow will take care of itself…” (Matt 6:34). Perhaps we are far too focused on tomorrow, perhaps this is really Satan’s way to get us to procrastinate God’s work day after day. Not only are we putting off God’s work, but we are planning for a day we don’t know that we will have. Let us make the most of what God has given us, let us realize how valuable this very moment we are in is, let us do His will today!

Does God accept Drive-in Church?

Charlton Rhinehart

 
What is Drive-in Church? Drive-in Church is one of the latest fads among larger churches where they offer their church service as a drive-up, stay in your car and listen or view their worship much like the old drive-in theaters. It seems to be somewhat successful as for popularity, wouldn’t it be nice to not have to worry about your makeup, or your kids behaving, or dealing with all those nosey church people just acting friendly? However whether it is popular, convenient, or whatever other advantages it may hold we have to ask ourselves, is the principle in harmony with God’s word?

 
I visited the website of the nearest denominational congregation to me that offered the drive-in service just to get an idea how they explained it and how it worked. First they described who it was for, which was everyone, but they did emphasize those with physical handicaps that may keep them from worship. “…people with physical disabilities…parents of newborn children…senior adults, college students, people who are on-call with their work, people on vacation, people staying in local motels, and families could stop by Drive-in church on their way to the lake, dressed as they like.”1 This particular congregation made it clear a person could become a member of that congregation all while being part of the Drive-in worship alone if so desired. Their description of how it works explained an individual will bring a bulletin to your vehicle, then your radio could be tuned in to listen to the message, hear the band as it plays live from inside and the individuals can even sing along if they wish. If someone would like to make an offering that could still be done by holding it out for one of the vehicle ushers to receive. While we in the Lord’s church may go about some of those worship aspects differently, as long as the five parts of worship are done, is there anything really wrong?

 
I must admit there is nothing wrong with bringing our worship to the physically handicapped, we do so regularly though television, radio and other means for the purpose of those truly unable to attend and as a means of evangelism sowing the word among the soils. For this reason I commend these drive-in churches for their effort; I do have to question as I think about the extent in which our American buildings cater to the handicap why many people would be able to make it to the building but not make it inside, but if for some reason that is the case, I have little issue with the drive-in concept. But when these churches extend the drive-in worship to all individuals as an alternative to the assembly, this is definitely in contradiction to scripture. Here are three scriptural points to consider that this type of worship does not have, all which relate to fellowship:

 
No Interaction – Our interaction with other Christians in the church may not seem like it would carry much significance, but the fact is it is very important to God. The Greek term used for the church in the New Testament, ecclesia (Matt 16:18), means the called out assembly, we are called out of the world to assemble with one another. We are not talking about our cars or chariots assembling, but ourselves as individuals where we can see and speak to one another. This is our family, described as our brothers and sisters (Mark 3:35), we are members of the same body with each our own function (Rom 12 & 1 Cor 12), how can we for one minute think that we can simply park next to each other and have that relationship? Beyond all this, our social interaction and encouragement with one another is something God has emphasized to us. Just think of the way Barnabas, the “Son of Encouragement” (Acts 4:36), is praised in scripture and how vital his role was as the churches are first established in Acts. Those who know me personally know that I am not naturally a Barnabas, I am far from that, but myself and many others in the church still strive and know the need for us to encourage one another, to greet one another (Rom 16:16), to be concerned for difficulties (Gal 6:2), and rejoice when one is saved (Acts 8:39). Often times little do we realize the encouragement to others of our own faithful attendance, if you have ever been at a congregation lacking faithful members then you know exactly what I mean. Our own participation in worship is also part of that encouragement (Col 3:16; Eph 5:19). However when we limit the physical interaction of the church to the confines of our own car, aside from greeting the parking attendant, there is no interaction, no fellowship.

 
No Communion – Granted most denominations today do not see the need for taking part of communion or the Lord’s Supper each Lord’s day as scriptures give example (Act 20:7, 2:42), but communing with folks not even assembled is not part of God’s plan. I suppose if a congregation that did regularly partake communion choose to do the drive-in style worship, it could be taken to each vehicle just as the example I looked at did not dare miss a chance to take up offering, but this still would not define what communion is about. Sure communion is a quiet moment as we reflect upon the sacrifice of or Savior, but it is those we are gathered with as we partake that we are also communing with, realizing that Christ died for them also and how important our unity and cause is (1 Cor 10:17). Again, can we really commune with those we never even intend to meet because we hold ourselves back from fellowshipping. The physical handicaps of an individual may cause one to not meet all the congregation for a portion of time, but those capable of assembly are without excuse.

 
No Disfellowship – A principle taught in scripture is the need sometimes for disfellowship, it is always difficult to do, but it is a command of God for us to uphold to keep the church pure (1 Cor 5:6) and to bring the sinner to a realization of his need for repentance lest he loose his soul (1 Cor 5:5, II Thes 3:15). The simple question has to be asked, how can we ever practice disfellowship together as a congregation when there was never any fellowship? If no brothers or sister ever spoke to me in my vehicle at church how can I ever be disfellowshiped by them? In the same way the ones who really have to make the tough call to disfellowship that the congregation will follow, the elders who oversee the congregation, how can they even know all the individuals of the church if part of them are not present in person? There has to be some way we keep up with one another, some way we fellowship one another, some way we are held accountable to one another, and in the confines of our car for the physically-able is not the way that will ever work.

 
The truth be told, Drive-in Church seems to be much more of a tool used by individuals to work their way out of the church rather than an evangelistic tool to really reach the lost. Most individuals are going to use this opportunity at first when it is convenient for their schedule, and perhaps without realizing it until they see no benefit to attending at all. It is a stepping stone out of the church that takes away immediately one of the most important features of the church, our fellowship. There could be many more points made I am sure that a drive-in church just cannot replace. But for those restoring the church of the scriptures, for those in the least health to assemble for a couple hours at a time, there is no option for us to do anything less than assemble with our family in Christ.

“and let us consider how to stimulate one another to love and good deeds, not forsaking our own assembling together, as is the habit of some…” Heb 10:24-25 NASB

1“Drive-in Church” upbaptist.com. Access date: January 6, 2018. http://www.upbaptist.org/drive-in-church-faq/

Preachers and Lawyers

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Charlton Rhinehart
It often seems like no one likes a lawyer. Lawyers are known by their actions, that they lie, they cheat, they steal, they even get away with murder; all while staying within their legal rights that keep them safe. How many advertisements do we see daily where a lawyer is begging to use you to sue your employer, your doctor or neighbor so they can get their own portion of the money? How many murder cases do we see in the news were an individual has obvious guilt, yet they walk away free because of their lawyer. Lawyers are often the first to jump to using the race card, the first to cry sexist, the first to get the most important evidence dismissed. Lawyers comb through every detail and action of a police arrest looking for a legal error to provide an escape for their client’s guilt. Lawyers point out unrelated faults in the opposing party like the ultimate bully, anything they can do to undermine their opponent and build up their client they will do, and somehow it works. Sure everything they do is legal and well within the law, yet it doesn’t change our thoughts of them. Lawyers make us hate the law system, they take that which is supposed to help us and keep our society moral, and they twist it and misuse until it works simply for their dishonest gain. No wonder insurance cost are so high, no wonder businesses cannot survive in America, no wonder we are afraid to help someone in need, because there are so many legal traps we have to avoid because of swindling lawyers.

I do realize that not all lawyers are the scum of the earth. I do know a few that I admire and sincerely believe are good and honest individuals, but I think you already know how I feel about the majority of them. Only a politic would compare, but wait, most politics are lawyers!

What about preachers? Is there a way that they are just as vile as lawyers? Perhaps we could compare how some of them do go after the big money, or how some preachers are willing to slander another individual, but that’s not the applications I have in mind. Many preachers have a habit that compares far too well with the same trait as many lawyers, and while we often don’t think much about it, this habit does as much harm to the image and unity of the church as it does to the people’s respect of any conniving law firm. Just as lawyers often twist the law of the land to fit their need, too many preachers twist the law of God to fit what the crowd wants to hear. Consider these examples of preachers using our basic knowledge of God’s word but twisting it to fit our own desires.

A preacher tells us: “God will use anything, even nature to reveal what He wants for us”. The truth in this statement: creation does testify of God (Rom 1:20; Psl 19:1), God has used nature to carry out His will and to show His power: such as Egypt’s plagues or Rome’s warnings. The truth however that this preacher intends to deny: God instructs us only through His word today (Jude 3; II Tim 3:17), not by hidden signs and subtle messages (1 Cor 13:8-10). This preacher permits us to look beyond God’s word to find the answer we desire.

A preacher sums up a bible class saying: “It doesn’t matter what sin you are guilty of because they are all the same to God”. The truth in his statement, all sin does separate us from God (Jas 2:10). The intentional lie however in this preacher’s statement – is that God is not concerned which sins we commit. Sure all sins are wrong, but contrary to what this preacher implies there are many specific sins that God has little patience for compared to other sins. There are some sins which God calls an abomination, certain sins that have greater earthly consequences, certain sins which have a greater endangerment for eternal consequence (1 John 5:16-17). Perhaps this preacher is wanting to comfort some in the congregation living in a major sin, or perhaps he is wanting to tell some who condemn the sinful that their smallest sins mean that they cannot correct others. Whatever the preacher’s motive is, a simple twist of God’s word is all it takes.

A Community church preacher offers the invitation saying: “Jesus wants you to come as you are”. The truth in this statement, Jesus does extend His invitation to all people (1 Tim 2:4; Rom 2:11). Jesus was willing to speak to the woman at the well or even the known sinners of the time. The truth however that this preacher intends his statement to deny: Jesus demands repentance (Luke 13:3, Acts 17:30), Jesus requires change and obedience (Heb 5:9). Not only is there an initial repentance necessary, but that repentance must be retained until death no matter what temptations come our way (Matt 10:22). Jesus does not give a come as you are and stay as you are invitation, but this preacher intentionally does so even if he would deny it when asked.

A skillful lawyer can easily lead a jury away from the law’s intention all while using the law of the land to do so. In the same way, a simple phrase skillfully spoken by a preacher can lead souls away from the truth all while using God’s word also. Paul said of false teachers to the Romans,”…by their smooth talk and flattering speech they deceive the hearts of the unsuspecting” (Rom 16:18), and telling the Corinthians, “… I did not come with superiority of speech or of wisdom…” (1 Cor 12:1). Paul didn’t depend on such forms of preaching to persuade, but instead he spoke the gospel unashamed of how it was (Rom 1:16). Just because something sounds nice and in accordance with God’s word on the surface we cannot be so easily deceived, the scriptures warn greatly for us to be on guard, even towards our own brethren (Acts 20:29; Matt 7:15).

Preachers are no one to hate and despise, for by their word men are saved (Rom 10:15), our Lord was a preacher Himself, yet also by many false preachers many are lost. The subtle differences however that a false preacher conveys are far more perverse than the most dishonest lawyer of today.

The Ugly Side of the Beautiful Bride

Charlton Rhinehart

The church is described as a beautiful bride (Rev 21:9-11), holy and sanctified, washed with water (Eph 5:26). She is pure, clothed in fine linen that is bright and clean, which are her deeds (Rev 19:8). “that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she should be holy and blameless (Eph 5:27 NASB). If we are not in the church, we have no hope of being acceptable to God; how beautiful the church must be to Christ as she is set apart from the filth of the world! The great preparation a bride will go to just to impress her groom with her beauty, yet there are none more perfect and beautiful than the church, the beautiful bride of Christ. But how do we make sense of this when we see the ugly side of the church? When she who is so beautiful appalls us with disgust!?

The majority of the world has seen this ugly side of the beautiful bride; from the disagreements because some ignore the word, the hatred and poor attitudes, the sin she indulges in and tolerates, to the adultery of her leaders, very few would call her beautiful. While the denominations are what the majority have seen, we would be fools to say that the church belonging to Christ is free from these same afflictions. A good friend of mine and brother in Christ often tells me, “Hollywood and politics have nothing on the drama and backstabbing in the church.” The more I learn and experience, the closer I come to believing his slightly exaggerated quote.

So what do we do? Is God wrong with His description of the church? We know that God cannot be wrong. Scripture shows that even while these statements of the church and her perfection were being written by inspiration, that there was also an ugly side at that time. The church at Corinth indulged in error, the churches of Galatia sought to return to Judaism, Paul and John warned of brothers like Hymenaeus, Alexander and Diotrephes. Christ Himself speaks to the seven churches of Asia, of which only two He called acceptable without further repentance, and many other ugly attributes can be found. The scriptures do not turn a blind eye to this ugly error, they warn and call for change; nor do I call us to ignore this ugly side of the bride today, that isn’t a solution. We must change, we must repent (Rev 2:5), we must cleanse (1 Cor 5:13), and we must warn our brethren (2 Tim 4:15).

So again, how do we reconcile these two extreme sides of the church present in both the first century and present today? How can we have a positive attitude about the church when that which is supposed to build us up and encourage us, so often tears us down emotionally? First we have to realize that not everyone in the church is part of it. The church in most assemblies has those present who have never obeyed the plan of salvation. To the visitor of the church this especially is not apparent, who is a part and who is just a regular attendee. Even with those who have been immersed into Christ, many of them have not been faithful in attendance as they should. There has to be some understanding and patience with those who are still learning, there also has to be some prayer and correction for those not being faithful as God desires. We cannot allow the error of some to cause us to mislabel the true portion of the church.

Christians who have been faithful in attendance and to the works of the church, even for these individuals, not all are part of God’s body. As Christ spoke through the writings of John to the church at Sardis, He told the congregation they were dead spiritually, yet He said for those there who have not soiled themselves in sin, that they are worthy (Rev 3:2,4). Here is a congregation where the majority was lost, but a few were not. Should it cause us today to give up if the congregation we are near has a few who might be lost, some who are not acting correctly, yet they wear the name of Christ and His church? Yes, such a situation is nothing to just brush aside, the church should be striving to correct or even disfelowship those individuals to bring them to repentance, but also no such situation should cause us to ever give up on the Lord’s church. Even if the majority of the congregation is lacking in deeds such as Sardis, we should seek the best congregation we can, but we never give up completely on the Lord’s church, we never forsake the assembly of the saints!

Finally, even though we know we must be faithful to the church, it still doesn’t change the discouragement an erring brother or sister can cause as we see them ravage the church, when they try to tear us down, or when they try to oppose the very things we are working for. A simple solution I have found is to focus not on the ones opposing what is right, but to focus on the ones in the church who are faithful and true. There seems to always be someone in the church we look up to or are encouraged by no matter how bad things might be. Focus on their faithfulness, their works, their love of the truth and the word. Realize that your faithfulness might be the very thing helping hold them up also. By so doing, we are seeing the same beauty in the church that Christ sees. Error will always be a threat we must combat in the church, but the beauty of the bride is her righteous deeds done by those few that love the truth. When we see this we can see the true beauty of the church, the true purity and holiness of the church, the bride that has been washed in water with the word.

The church is made up of people, it at times will fail us and let us down in ways that words cannot even describe; but there is something there. There is something in that bride that is far too valuable to walk away from, for she is the most valuable and beautiful treasure to God, so also should she always be to us.

Again, the kingdom of heaven is like a merchant seeking fine pearls, and upon finding one pearl of great value, he went and sold all that he had, and bought it. Matthew 13:45-46

Public School, Home School, & Sex Education

Charlton Rhinehart

As my wife and I approach the day we will have to make the choice for our children between home school or public school, I simply wanted to write some of the thoughts we have discussed as we near that day. As it turns out, sex education is a major part of that decision.

As I think about public school and the threats it may hold for a Christian child, there are a few subjects that arise. One of those subjects of course, is the teaching of evolution and the age of the earth, another would be how other school kids might treat a Christian child standing for what is right. The third item that comes to my mind is sex education. Just what are they going to teach my child that is right and wrong when it comes to sex, or as I have always known it, “Family Life Class?”

My wife and I were both raised in public schools. We hold no favoritism toward home schooling, nevertheless we have made some friends over the years that have chosen the home school route, and we can see the value in it. As we think about the above listed threats, we have discussed that we do not want to hide our children from the world. Christians are to be in the world, but not of the world. We cannot hide ourselves like the Amish from society, but we must let our lights shine before men (Matt 5:16). At the same time however, we know a Christian must avoid temptation. You don’t send a recovering alcoholic for a repair in a wine cellar, you don’t leave piles of money around someone repenting of past theft, and we cannot drop our children off in a school that constantly will teach and tempt them with many things we know are wrong! As you can see, there are several considerations.

Of all the threats that public schools hold, one stands out to my wife and I above the rest, sex education. The way science is taught often depends on the science teacher, who often might even be a believer himself. The way other children treat a Christian child often depends on your location and circumstances, but the way sex education is taught is hard to imagine holding any of God’s principals in public school; in fact, I know it doesn’t.

I remember when I was younger one very bored night going through my dad’s books, I happened across a 1986 Freed Hardeman Lectureship book. As I flipped through the book I landed on the introduction which spoke about the city of Memphis threatening to teach these “Family Life Classes.” I read on in amusement as it spoke about just how horrible these sex education courses would be for our children. The editor said, “They intend to expose students in Memphis to their liberal, humanistic view of human sexuality.”¹ Having just completed some Family Life classes at the time, I marveled at their ignorance of how harmless and helpful the classes really were. Now years later, I marvel at my own ignorance, the subtle teachings that contained so many lies that altered my thinking for years.

First and foremost, the Family Life course in public school teaches “Safe Sex.” My first sex education course was when I was in the fifth grade, 1995. I do remember marriage being taught as the ideal place for safe sex, but even in that day, the priority of the class was to teach “safe sex” to those of us who would need to know it long before marriage. This is one of the biggest problems of the course, it is instituted with the wrong motives. The class teachings may acknowledge that marriage is the ultimate solution, but the course has given up on the idea that we will be waiting until then. You might be saying, “is that not a good thing to teach, being that the majority of teens do not wait until marriage?” While I can see that argument, especially from the world’s view, I also have to think how different things would be if we didn’t teach our youth how to do what we are telling them not to do! When we teach our youth the way to have “safe sex” without marriage, how can we be surprised when they have sex before marriage? By the way, is there any “safe sex” outside of a marriage recognized by God? No practice can be taught to keep us from God’s judgment, regardless of other consequences we may dodge (Rom 1:27). There is no safe sex outside of God’s instruction, but Family Life teaches your child that there is.

Another hidden mistake of the class is the way that STD’s are portrayed. Again the truth is not totally ignored, there is the teaching and truly the education of what diseases can be spread through sex. I must say the course does educate well about the reality of those diseases, how they are treated, that there are other ways they can be caught, all things we need to understand. Here again however is some deception, and that is in the emphasis of the way STD’s are spread. The class admits sex is a way for STD’s to spread, but it obscures the fact that sex outside of marriage is the main reason for STD’s. There is a huge emphasis on the innocent who have caught a disease by some other means. Again in my youth I remember my uncle who was a bit random with his comments, telling my cousins and myself that the reason God sent aids was a consequence for homosexuals. We all busted out laughing at him, myself included, his ignorance to think that only gays could catch aids! Again, I now have to look back at my own ignorance instead. Yes, I know anyone can catch aids by any blood to blood contact, but we had been trained that most individuals who have aids got if from some means other than sex, a huge lie. They had taken a truth, and twisted it into a lie, a lie that made sex outside of God’s word look innocent. STD’s were no one’s fault, not the result of any sin, and we truly believed it.

A factor that is often unthought-of about sex education is the circumstance it creates in the family. The dreaded question of parents, “where do babies come from?” is now answered by the school. Not only is that question answered, but all those other questions that come along with it are answered there also. While this may seem like a huge relief to parents and a break from a difficult responsibility, there is a serious consequence to the family. When these difficult questions that every child has are answered by a third party, there is a part of parenting that is left undone creating a missing part of that relationship. One day your son or daughter knows nearly nothing about sex and the changes that lay ahead for their body, a few days later they know nearly as much as you do. There was never a discussion, never a point that you can both relate to made, never even an awkward word spoken, just one day they don’t know, and another day they do. This adds a huge awkward barrier to the parent child relationship, one you may have never even thought of. The best comparison I can think of is a marriage relationship silent about sex, can you imagine how strange that close relationship would be? While it may be different in many ways, there is a similar aspect in parenting, and that is that parents should be looked up to as guides to teach on these questions. When that is left un-discussed, there is something missing in that relationship and guidance, we are leaving out one of the “secret” bonds that cause our children to look to us. All we do is put up a wall of unspoken understanding that we both have that we dare not discuss, a wall that spreads to other aspects of our relation with them.

Finally as I consider the subject of sex education, especially as I think of my own children as they approach school age, there is the new aspect of homosexuality and transgender issues that have become common. My experience with Family Life or Sex Education began over 20 years ago, I can only imagine what is taught now. I honestly suspect homosexual methods of sex are explained and illustrated just like heterosexual sex was when I was in the course. I honestly suspect male and female bodies will be explained as choices rather than what we have been given. I can’t imagine the questions that would be asked in class, or the serious respectful way the teacher would be teaching on such issues that they seek to normalize, but I know they will be there. The government’s relationship with Planned Parenthood comes to my mind, and I have to wonder how related the belief system and teaching is between the two. There is a definite agenda in Family Life classes, and I should have never been part of it, I am certain I do not want my children to have any part of it either.

We are still up in the air on whether or not public school or home school is the best way for our children. We have a couple years left still to decide. One thing is for sure for us however, we will be opting our children out of “Family Life Class.” It may create some ridicule by other children, we may have to study some facts on STD’s and other things, it may cause us to have to teach on some difficult subjects and embarrass our kids and ourselves some, but there is no other choice for us. If you choose the public school route, I encourage you to look into making certain that opting out is going to be an option for you to choose for your children. Be alert when those classes are coming and stay one step ahead. Also, study your children’s classes to know what is taught in other classes. While most give the option to opt out of Family Life, some districts have began teaching these things in other classes that cannot be opted out of. When there is no option to opt my children out of select classes that teach these things, I know homeschooling will be my only consideration. Whatever route you choose, be aware of the deception that Family Life Classes teach, and keep your children from it.

¹ Claiborne, Winford. “Introduction,” Pages viii-x in Ethics for Daily Living Freed-Hardeman College 1986 Lectures. Edited by Winford Claiborne. Nashville:  Williams, 1986.

“We Cannot Stop Speaking” Acts 4:20 (a response to LGBT Day of Silence)

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Today, April the 17th 2015, is what many will refer to as this year’s “Day of Silence.” If you are wondering what the “Day of Silence” is, it is simply a day of the year that many have chosen to go throughout being silent or speaking as little as possible in order to stand together against the mistreatment of gay persons. According to the GLSEN (Gay, Lesbian & Straight Education Network) website, dayofsilence.org, says, “The Day of Silence is a student-led national event that brings attention to anti-LGBT name-calling, bullying and harassment in schools.” Students across America and in many countries, from middle schools to colleges are participating in this event, many with the embracement of the school faculty. While I still consider myself a young adult, the rapid changes that have taken place in the last years since I was in school, such as the popularity of this event, are truly astounding, regardless of your views. 

I first want to say that I also am opposed to any name-calling, bullying or harassment of any LGBT individual or community. New Testament Christianity and the scriptures do not teach that we are to mock or injure anyone as a way to persuade them from sin. This does not however mean I support the “Day of Silence.” The way the homosexual community defines harassment has evolved beyond bounds, such as writing or sharing an article such as this one, simply reading certain scriptures, or answering someone’s question on what you believe is all it takes to be considered a bully. Despite religious freedom being a core right of our country, the laws of the land are quickly taking to the side of religious suppression. Young Christians, if you believe you can be part of this event because it is in part about bullying, you are making a sinful mistake! This day is defined as one that is for the LGBT community, events such as these are what have pushed the rapid acceptance of a sin on a Christian nation; do not take part in it! 

How else should we react to an event like this, should we be the ones keeping quiet? The inspired scriptures of God make it clear that we as Christians are to be anything but silent. In Acts chapter four Peter and John had been encircled by the authorities of their day for preaching. Though Jesus whom they preached was just killed days before, and much persecution awaited the church just ahead, when they were commanded by the Council not to speak or to teach in the name of Jesus, they replied, “Whether it is right in the sight of God to give heed to you rather than God, you be the judge; for we cannot stop speaking what we have seen and heard.” (Acts 4:19,20) NASB. Silence was nothing these apostles could keep, no matter who gave the orders then, or no matter who gives them now, we cannot be silent. Think of the great commission given by Christ, to go, to teach all nations everything He commanded (Matt 28: 19,20). Paul wrote to Timothy topreach the word; be ready in season and out of season; reprove, rebuke and exhort…” (2 Tim 2:4, cf. Titus 2:1), that preaching, that teaching is a vital part of our Christianity. Jesus again taught us that we cannot be ashamed Him (Matt 10:33), and that it is “…by your words you shall be justified…” (Matt 12:37). Paul again as he began the inspired letter to the church at Rome said, “For I am not ashamed of the gospel, for it is the power of God for salvation…” (Rom 1:16). Knowing the life of Paul, the persecutions he endured, we know he was not ashamed to speak that gospel, it is no wonder he also quoted the scripture “How beautiful are the feet of those who preach the gospel” (Rom 10:15) ESV, preaching through which he said man would be saved. We as Christians need to speak out, to preach and to teach the truth that can save man, and expose the sin that causes man to be lost, God has always used an individual to deliver His message to man. 

The homosexual community has worked together and has been very outspoken, and they are seeing the benefits of their labor. Homosexuals and their supporters have been so out spoken that on this day they are getting attention by simply being quiet. Sadly Christians on the other hand, have been silent all along. Even a handful of years ago, when those who claimed Christianity was the majority in agreement that homosexuality was sin, we too often kept quiet on the awkward sexual subject. We let groups like Westboro Baptist do the speaking, we let the rude graffiti on the bathroom stalls, written by the unchurched, do the speaking on our behalf, and now we wonder what went wrong. The fault is not only those who used such sinful methods to oppose homosexuality, the fault is also on us who knew the truth, who knew the way God wanted it spoken, but we didn’t speak it at all. We have failed to speak the oracles of God. 

So what, do we do now? Do we run out and scream “homosexuality is wrong”? No, we shouldn’t be ashamed to say that, but that’s not what we should scream at the top of our lungs. Instead we must preach the gospel, the whole counsel of God. By picking on homosexuality alone, we are the same hypocrites as the Westboro church, vulgar comedian or the bathroom artist, enwrapped in all sorts of sin while condemning one. But if we preach against all sin, not to minimize homosexuality, but instead to show true Christianity, it’s pureness in all aspects of life, then we are speaking the oracles of God. We have to preach and to teach and live by all that Jesus commanded, all His apostles showed us, all the word of God. This requires speaking out. 

One final passage in conclusion you might recall, from the prophet Jeremiah, he had a tough message to proclaim, he knew the word of God, but the people did not want to hear it. As Jeremiah says he attempted to hold the message in, he says, “…then in my heart it became like a burning fire Shut up in my bones; and I am weary of holding it in…” (Jer 20:9). We also know the word, and we also have a very tough audience, maybe we have been holding the word of God in. Have we held the word of God in so long that that the fire has burned out? Speaking God’s word caused Jeremiah great suffering and lamenting, but he spoke it. Paul rejoiced in that same suffering (Col 1:24), but he also spoke the word, because he knew the reward. We have to speak the message of God, let’s speak it today. “We cannot stop speaking what we have seen and heard.”